At the art gallery

Just got home after three quick days in New York. There’s so much to write about, so many stories I want to share. But I was particularly touched by one late in the day, just as I was about to leave for the airport.

I’m dying to tell you about meeting with Martha Cooper, one of my most fascinating new friends. I’m also anxious to share what I learned from Nicole Kenney, co-author of the “Before I Die I Want To” project. Both women are such inspirations to me.

I’m also bursting at the seams to talk about the work we were in the city to do but I’ll wait for another time. It was so stimulating working alongside Ally, Travis and Katie as we traversed the city, shooting everything from skylines in the Upper West Side to mural art in Spanish Harlem. At twice their years, this ol’ body did its best to keep up with them. It was so fun. I learned so much.

With a little under three hours to spare before my flight departed I squeezed in a visit to MoMAPS1, the oldest contemporary art institution in the United States. Located in the Queens neighborhood of Long Island City, it was conveniently on my way to the airport.

Glazed concrete floors, naked brick walls, brightly painted metal handrails, and huge wide open spaces. Phew! This might go down as my favorite gallery space anywhere.

PS1 is different from most museums as it known for presenting the most experimental art in the world. Unfortunately, I hit it at a time when they were packing up a large exhibit. But since I had only a short window, I got to spend plenty of time with the few exhibits that were left.

James Turrell ~ Photography by GRANT DELIN for "Interview Magazine"

I especially loved “Meeting” by James Turrell. At 69, he is an American installation artist best known for working in light and space. This long-term exhibit is a square room with high-back benches, slightly reclined, lining each of the walls. As you look up you see the sky through a rectangular opening cut directly out of the roof of the building. 

Turrell describes the ambiance of this room as, “There’s this four-square seating that’s inside, seating toward each other, having a space that created some silence, allowing something to develop slowly over time, particularly at sunset.” It’s been described as one of the “The 50 coolest places in New York City right now.”

The rays of sunshine coming through the ceiling cast shadows. Large triangles, big foreboding shapes fell across those of us sitting in the room. The sounds of the city below were muted, the warmth of the sun enveloped us.

It was in this space that I witnessed a sweet little vignette. Across from me sat a young couple – in their late 30s or so. She was dressed in artistic attire, loose baggy pants topped with two or three layers, patterns that didn’t match. She wore no makeup. Her skin was pale and pure, reminding me of what I envisioned a vegetarian’s might be. Her hair was tossed about, unshaped, a bit disheveled. She was in her element in this room, fully absorbed by its aura.
Beside her sat who I imagined to be her husband. Every hair in place, he was in a starched blue shirt and crisply-pressed khakis that looked as if they were right off the racks of Brooks Brothers. His polished loafers and his alligator watch band painted the perfect image of your Wall Street broker. He sat tall with a hint of tenseness to his posture. Behind his tortoise shell glasses, his eyes darted about the room as if looking for some sort of reasoning, some hint of what he was supposed to be sensing by this exhibit. He was at a loss, obviously not comfortable with this modern art form. It was very sweet to me that he was there for her.

After a few minutes he reached for her hand. I’m not sure if it was his signal that he was ready to go. Or maybe it was his way of honoring her by trying to understand the space in which she resided.

Either way it made my day.

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Back in the Big Apple

It’s nearly 2:00am. I am just settling in after an exhausting day of shooting.

Being back in New York feels great. I started out early this morning by visiting my old Saturday haunt, the outdoor market at Abingdon Square. It was a bit chilly but that didn’t seem to deter the locals from flocking the market. Beautiful ruffled lettuces, bright red radishes, brown and speckled eggs, Honey Crisp apples, goat and cow’s milk cheeses, fish and seafood, and of course my favorite – the pastries from Meredith’s Bakery. I treated myself to a banana-blueberry mini loaf for breakfast.

From there I returned back to my little hotel, The Jane. If you’ve not visited their website, you must. It’s a fun boutique hotel with small berth-like rooms, reminiscent of cabins on a ship. This nautical theme is carried through all parts of your stay – even the bellboys wear the appropriate period attire.

And like a ship, bathrooms are communal and located down the hall. This morning I entered the bathroom just as a young gorgeous Australian man walked out of the shower. Clothed, of course, in the white waffle robe the hotel provides. I guess he caught the red flush that washed my face, so he greeted me quite kindly in that sexy crocodile-hunter accent.

I can’t promise you’ll always enjoy such perks when you stay here, but I will give you my word that it’s a great place, perfectly located one block from the Hudson River, a few steps from the High Line and Chelsea Market, and in the heart of the West Village, my favorite part of this city.

We spent the day filming in Harlem, the Upper West Side, Lower East Side and in Brooklyn. We found some familiar old pieces of street art in Spanish Harlem and saw newly painted walls across the East River. . .  then finished our day at a wonderful pizza place called Roberta’s. The food and atmosphere were well worth the two-hour wait.

I’m beat. Exhausted. Worn out. So give me a break on poor spelling and grammar.

My dancin’ shoes are tucked under the bed. They are ready to take on another great day of walking. Goodnight and sweet dreams.

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My first writing course

It’s 10:28pm. I just got back from my first writing class. There were 16 or 17 of us taking the class. A few young ones, but most ranging from 40 to 60 years old. We went around the room introducing ourselves, one by one telling a snippet of the memoirs we came to write. Most of our premises were the same – most of us are acting on a passion, a dream – finally taking the time to tell our stories.

Within the class were a medical professor and a college counselor. A marketing professional and an engineer. In the back sat a member of one of the greatest classic rocks bands of all times.

In the class is a New Yorker who started her career as a dancer for the Dance Theatre of Harlem. Her story starts with her father, the first negro concert pianist to play in Carnegie Hall.

Then there’s the young woman whose mentor was removed from office, quietly and swiftly, because of his forbidden acts. She wants to put her thoughts on paper so she can process her confused and somewhat unresolved feelings.

On the right side was professional chef, a youngish man with a heavy Latin accent. He explained the story he has in his head, one that beautifully compares the stages of love to a delicious recipe.

Our first assignment was to free-write for a few minutes, to record a ‘shimmering image’ that recurs in our memory.

For me it was: “My first sensorial thought goes back to that very first morning in New York, a Saturday in late June. A little afraid, a lot in awe, I ventured out onto the neighborhood streets of the West Village. It was early, maybe 6:30 or 7. A haunting silence hung over the cobblestone streets of this quaint little neighborhood. The fresh, dewy morning smells seemed to override the scent of dog urine and last night’s drinks . . .”

I was reminded tonight that none of us have the same story. Each is different, each is colorful, each vital in its own way.

I can’t wait til next week.

I can’t wait to hear them all.

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No P-ing Off Roadway

I’ve driven by this sign a million times. Usually on a mission and in a hurry, I never slowed down enough to catch the humor in it.
Not until this morning, while taking a leisurely walk through the neighborhood, did it make me just stop and belly laugh.
Used to be – when we were kids – we’d fritter away whole days in the woods just pokin’ around with rocks, building forts, watching tadpoles in the creek.
I’d lay for hours on our thick bed of St. Augustine grass, just staring into the sky, making figures out of the shapes of the clouds.
And the Saturdays I spent sitting in the boat with my Dad, not saying a word . . . I’d just watch the ripples in the water around us, breathing in the freshness of the lake air, feeling the gentle tugs on my fishing line.
I don’t do enough of that. I suspect neither do you. I get so caught up in paying the bills, organizing the basement, rising the ladder of success that I often miss the humor in life.
Just over a month ago, I sat down and wrote my 2013 business plan. Yeah, I know. Not something you’d expect out of a ditzy creative person, but I’ve learned I do much better if I set myself attainable goals. My quest for living more intentionally has a better chance of becoming a reality when I set small, monthly goals, or deadlines for myself.
I set financial projections, what I needed to earn each month, what I want to save. Yes, I listed how many pounds I wanted to lose to reach my ‘happy’ weight and how many chapters I needed to write to finish my draft by the end of June. I have a line item for my social media activity as well as what classes I want to take. { ok, a bit OCD }
What I failed to include was time for myself.
A friend once confided in me that she makes weekly appointments with herself – actually puts them on her calendar. They might be pedicures or bubble baths, even walks in the park. She keeps those appointments just as religiously as she does her clients’. In her book, The Artist’s Way, Julia Cameron calls them Artist’s Dates, or ‘assigned play.’

I should do the same.

Yep, I think I’ll print out this sign and tape it to my bathroom mirror. Maybe tomorrow I’ll load up my dog and just drive into the mountains of North Georgia.

And dare me. I might just pull over and “P” off the roadway.

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My Celebrity Crush

{ One day per month each member in my Facebook group, #GenFab, posts an article on a common title. We then bundle our pieces together, share links and drive traffic for each other. February’s topic is “Celebrity Crush”. Here is my contribution. }

My Celebrity Crush.

Not sure if it’s the long-sleeve black turtleneck or the Levi’s 501 jeans. Maybe it’s the old sneakers that float my boat.

Most women fall in love with good-looking stars like George Clooney and Denzel Washington. I swoon over a tech nerd.

I first became infatuated with Steve Jobs on January 22, 1984, while watching the Super Bowl. This is what did it: “1984”

A few years later I read John Sculley’s book, Odyssey: Pepsi to Apple. That’s when I became obsessed. Mr. ‘Wingtip’ Sculley criticized Jobs for his non-linear corporate culture. How could a bunch of scraggly creative people and engineers sit around a circle on the floor, in their jeans, spending hours batting ideas back and forth be operationally efficient, Sculley asked?

I thought Jobs’ plan was brilliant.

An advertising creative myself, I so wanted to work for him. Since that wasn’t in the cards, I tore out all of his ads, brought them into the office, taped them to our purple conference room wall, and instructed my jeans-wearing, floor-sitting staff that we were NOT to let any work outside our office that didn’t rival the edginess of Apple.

“Don’t fight the system,” “Well, that’s the way it’s always been,” are nauseating excuses for cowardness, in my opinion. Jobs never settled for status quo. He bucked the system, he had that ‘bad boy’ attitude toward The Establishment.

I loved that about him.

In 1997 he and his ad agency came up with the all-time best campaign, “Think Different.” Like you know the lyrics of your favorite song, I can still quote every line in the TV spot “Here’s To The Crazy Ones.”  

I am transformed every time I watch that video.

Steve Jobs, the consummate entrepreneur, infused his spirit into those around him. His aura, his energy spilled over into those who worked for him, those who invested in Apple, and those who bought his products. I still get pumped with healthy energy when I read about him, when I watch his speeches, when I surround myself with people as electric as Steve Jobs. (And let’s be honest, don’t we all get a big rush when we walk into an Apple store?)

I also admire a man – especially one so powerful – who will admit publicly that he is vulnerable. In the famous speech Jobs gave at Stanford University in 2005, he said being fired from Apple was the best thing that could have happened to him. “The heaviness of being successful was replaced by the lightness of being a beginner again, less sure about everything. It freed me to enter one of the most creative periods of my life.” And he added, “I’m pretty sure none of this would have happened if I hadn’t been fired from Apple. It was awful-tasting medicine, but I guess the patient needed it.”

Ya gotta admit, not many can hold a candle to Steve Jobs.

Despite being worth billions of dollars, I admired Steve Jobs because he was determined not to let money ruin his life. He lived in a sparsely decorated, modest house (by Palo Alto standards, of course). His garden had no walls and he didn’t even lock the front door, according to a close friend. He shunned the celebrity circuit, balked at the prices of clothing and on Halloween, went all out for the neighborhood kids, decorating his garden with fog and thunder machines.

Steve Jobs was the real deal.

In his book, Sculley tells how Jobs lured him out of a secure, lucrative position at Pepsi with this question:  “Do you want to sell sugar water for the rest of your life, or do you want to come with me and change the world?”

This innate genius not only recognized his God-given talents, but he took ownership of them. He used those tools to change the world. Yeah, we are all born with divine gifts but most of us make excuses why we can’t use them. Me included. “Wish I could afford to, not enough time, can’t because …” Steve Jobs blew every excuse out of his way and plowed right through them, indeed pushing the human race forward at break-neck speed.

He placed a great importance on his spirituality, again bucking political correctness with his choice of religions. He stayed true to his beliefs in both his personal as well as his business life.

I love that in a man.

Yeah, I know. Steve Jobs was a demanding perfectionist, sometimes petulant or abrasive. He refused to meet with investors. He allowed atrocious working conditions in his factories in China. He lied to Steve Wozniak. And gave no money to charity. Used LSD. Ok, maybe he wasn’t as perfect as I make him out to be.

But Steve Jobs was my hero. If I had to pick one person with whom I could spend an entire day, it would him, hands down.

To sum it up, from the words of his own TV spot, produced in 1997: . . . here’s to Steve Jobs:

“Here’s To The Crazy Ones. The misfits. The rebels. The trouble-makers. The round pegs in the
square holes. The ones who see things differently. They’re not fond of rules, and they have
no respect for the status-quo. You can quote them, disagree with them, glorify, or vilify them.
About the only thing you can’t do is ignore them. Because they change things. They push the
human race forward. And while some may see them as the crazy ones, we see genius.
Because the people who are crazy enough to think they can change the world – are the ones who DO

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Gun control would not have prevented the senseless loss at Sandy Hook Elementary.

A simple match and gas can could have been just as deadly.

If we truly want to stop these incomprehensible acts, our nation must focus our energies on mental health. We must go to the root of the problem, not put a politically-charged band-aid on the hardware used.

Twenty children, all innocent little first-graders – dead.  Seven women, among them mothers, teachers and a principal. Gone. The 20-year-old shooter, a child in most of our eyes, is lost, too. An entire nation in shock.

News channels question which public policy issues will be examined, “Will Connecticut School Shooting Spur Gun Control Action?” “Will School Security Come Under Scrutiny?” and “Make the USA a Safer Place.”

I’m seeing very little about mental health.

Why is that?

First of all, there is little or no corporate money supporting mental health lobbying. Not enough profit in it, I guess.

Secondly, human capital is scarce. Most parents of children with mental health issues are exhausted, with little energy left to continue fighting the battle. Families are stretched thin financially after having to hire special tutors and pay for medical specialists, oftentimes not covered by insurance. Others step back into silence, hoping their child won’t have a stigma attached.

Folks, this is a national epidemic.

“1 in 5 children, either currently or at some point during their life, have had a seriously debilitating mental disorder,” according to National Institute of Mental Health (in conjunction with the Center for Disease Control).

The American Psychological Association states, “an estimated 15 million of our nation’s young people can currently be diagnosed with a mental health disorder. Many more are at risk of developing a disorder due to risk factors in their biology or genetics.” Only 7 percent receive the help they need.

The anxiety and stress associated with these kids’ challenges drives them into insanity. You can start to understand why some of them commit such acts of desperation.

Think about it. By the time they are 4 or 5 years old, our little ones are saddled with stigmas ranging from ADHD, depression, anxiety, bipolar disorder, obsessive-compulsive disorder, and autism.

Every day they are ostracized, bullied, pulled out of classes, tutored after school, IEP-d . . . segregated by having to sit at “the Sped” lunchroom table or study in ‘special’ classrooms. They are profoundly affected because they are labeled as different.

From the news sources, this painfully awkward boy had battled with a type of autism as well as a personality disorder. According to his aunt, Adam Lanza was an Honor Roll student even though he had ‘learning issues’. He had no previous arrest records.

She continued to say that Adam’s mother battled with the school board and ended up home-schooling her son. “I’m not 100% certain if it was behavior or learning disabilities, but he was a very, very bright boy. He was smart.” A friend described him as a genius.

I get it. I’ve fought those same battles, seeing little or no progress.

It is my hope that this incident will bring national attention to mental health. This Newtown community seems to be filled with well-educated, upper income families who have the means and the connections to make a swift impact on Washington.

I hope they’ll not waste their energies on political battles – with gun control or more school safety. I hope they’ll realize what killed their children and become true beacons of change.

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How can we help?

Join NAMI, National Alliance on Mental Illness

Impress upon your US Representative and Senator the importance of mental health funding.

 

 

 

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12.12.12@12:12:12

Where’s my head on this most momentous time in history?

The Mayans say today is the end of times as we know it, and the beginning of a new cycle of evolution for our planet. Well, that good.

Las Vegas claims it’s a lucky time to get married. Well, forget that.

A retired professor of mathematics and author of “Numerology” says, “It’s just a cute day!” He’s cute, too.

The next time numbers will align will be on January 1, 3001, or 1/1/1 at 1am.

Twelve must be a magical number. There are 12 months in a year, 12 hours on the face of a clock plus 12 inches in a foot. The carol tells us that there are 12 days of Christmas plus the zodiac has twelve signs, Scorpio being the best, mind you.

So what do I think?

I think it’s a great reason to take the day off. Put work aside, take a nap, don’t do laundry or housework . . . do some Christmas shopping, and eat out for dinner.

Any excuse I can find to put tasks aside, I’ll do. Beside, 12/12/12 doesn’t come but once in my lifetime. I’d hate to waste it!

 

 

 

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Best Rum Cake Ever

Feeling altruistic ’bout this time of year, I always like to share my favorite Rum Cake recipe with my family and friends. There’s nothing better to help glaze you through the stresses of the { hic } holidays.

INGREDIENTS:

1-2 quarts rum

brown sugar

1 cup butter

lemon juice

1 tsp sugar

nuts

2 large eggs

1 tsp baking powder

1 cup dried fruit

1 tsp baking power

Before you begin, sample the rum to check for quality. Now go ahead, select a large mixing bowl, measuring cup, etc. Check the rum again. It must be just right.

To be sure the rum is of high quality, pour one level cup into a glass and drink it as fast as you can. Repeat. With an electric mixer, beat one cup of butter in a large fluffy bowl. Add one seaspoon of thugar and beat again.

Meanwhile, make sure the rum is still good. Try another cup. Open a second quart if necessary. Add 2 arge leggs, 2 cups fried druit and beat until high. If druid gets stuck in the beaters, just pry it loose with a drewscriver.

Sample the rum again, checking for tonsicticity. Next, sift 3 cups pepper or salt (it really doesn’t matter). Sample the rum again. Sift 1/2 pint of lemon juice, fold in chopped butter and strained nusts. Add 1 babblespoon of brown sugar (or whatever color you can find). Wix mel.

Grease oven and turn cake pan to 350 gredees. Now, pour the whole mess into the coven and bake. Check the rum again and bo to ged.

~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ Several years back the ladies’ circle of our church put out a call for favorite recipes to feature in their upcoming cookbook. Seeing if I could get a rise outta those old ladies, I submitted this recipe. Much to my surprise, the recipe was accepted and published . . . including my name in LARGE BLACK type.

Guess they got the last laugh.

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Sixty.

Phew, what a birthday.

You’re only 60 once, so why not blow it out for weeks. That’s exactly what I did.

Two dear friends from church treated me to a big ol’ steak dinner. Yeah, Ruth’s Chris, no less!

A girlfriend had three of us at her home for a lovely dinner and lots of wine. Another just showed up with a HUGE bouquet of flowers and Starbucks the morning of my birthday. Oh! And a lovely night at the wine bar.

With leopard trim, of course!

There’s more. I was showered with all sorts of gifts I didn’t deserve. My Paris buddies surprised me with new luggage (they were horrified at what I had brought). I got some great fuzzy slippers, new towels and two VERY COOL books on graffiti. Imagine that!

And the ‘big day’ was just as I’d wanted . . . a somewhat quiet day with my family. We had lunch at a meat-n-three, the best kinda cooking you can get south of the Mason-Dixon. And for dessert, my daughter made me some snicker-doodles, my very favorite cookies on earth.

It was perfect.

But I gotta tell ya, the biggest surprise came when my email and Facebook accounts got hijacked.

My crafty sisterwho, by the way, you can never trust – scoured my Facebook and email accounts for names of old friends from as far back as grammar school. She dug deep to find college friends whose addresses I had lost. High school friends and long-lost work buddies. She told everyone to spread the word: “60 cards for her 60th!”

I got cards and letters from sorority sisters who I’d not heard from in decades. A work buddy who now lives in California, cousins spread across the country, wonderful neighbors . . .

Nothing. Nothing could have made my day more perfect.

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The biggest smile came from the card my ‘very prah-per’ mother sent. On the front was an illustration of a monkey, decked out in full hippie attire. It read:

“Happy 60th Birthday. Take a trip to celebrate your big day.

DesignerGreetings.com

Inside: “Of course, a trip in your sixties is different than a trip in the THE 60s!”

Tell me I don’t have one cool mom.

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But my favorite card came as no surprise. I get one every year.

You see, Jenny Humphreys, or “Miss Sunshine” as she’s known around our church, is confined to a wheelchair with very limited mobility. Armed with her computer, she designs a card, each different, each specially made, for every person in our church.

Jenny, you are amazing. You made my day.

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Vote NO!

Dear Friends,

Tomorrow Georgians will vote for or against a change to our state’s constitution. Because of all the marketing efforts, many will be voting – for what they believe is – “School CHOICE.”

Wrong.

We have school choice now. You can apply your child to a charter school today or start one if so inclined. You do not need this amendment. Georgia has many charter schools that have been in existence for years.

The purpose of this amendment is to allow our governor and General Assembly to appoint a state board – a band-aid – at the tune of $1+ million.

We taxpayers should be holding our elected officials’ feet to the fire and demanding they FIX the problems in education. Not giving them another $1 million of our tax dollars for a box of ‘waiting for Superman’ band-aids.

I’m voting “NO.”

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